Your reflections and learnings are highly appreciated
1
The best advice I can give myself looking back is not to panic. I was afraid to be alone in everything. But it's only a phase you have to go through and it all works out.
Man 35y,
father of 3 children
The best advice I can give myself looking back is not to panic. I was afraid to be alone in everything. But it's only a phase you have to go through and it all works out.
Man 35y,
father of 3 children
4
The best advice I can give is to forgive your ex and get on with your life. I was bitter for far too long and it affected not only my life negatively, but also the relationship with my children. I'm still working to change their perception of me and it's hard work.
Woman 39y,
Mother of 2 children
The best advice I can give is to forgive your ex and get on with your life. I was bitter for far too long and it affected not only my life negatively, but also the relationship with my children. I'm still working to change their perception of me and it's hard work.
Woman 39y,
Mother of 2 children
7
(Reflections needed)
(Reflections needed)
2
looking back, I think we should have divorced two years earlier, so we would have avoided the violent squabbles of recent months.
Woman 41y,
mother of 2 children
looking back, I think we should have divorced two years earlier, so we would have avoided the violent squabbles of recent months.
Woman 41y,
mother of 2 children
5
I'm sorry I yelled so much at my ex-husband during the divorce, while our son was hearing. I wish I could have controlled my temper. Even though I was hurt and frustrated, I owe my son an apology.
Woman 51y,
mother of 1 child
I'm sorry I yelled so much at my ex-husband during the divorce, while our son was hearing. I wish I could have controlled my temper. Even though I was hurt and frustrated, I owe my son an apology.
Woman 51y,
mother of 1 child
8
My parents have grown happier since the divorce, but I wish they could stay friends and that we could still do some things together sometimes.
Boy 13y,
Parents are divorced
My parents have grown happier since the divorce, but I wish they could stay friends and that we could still do some things together sometimes.
Boy 13y,
Parents are divorced
3
I wish I had sought help from a psychologist faster in the process because I felt so mentally weak. Then I would have avoided putting on 20kg because of comfort eating - and thus had one less thing to worry about.
Woman 39y,
mother of 2 children
I wish I had sought help from a psychologist faster in the process because I felt so mentally weak. Then I would have avoided putting on 20kg because of comfort eating - and thus had one less thing to worry about.
Woman 39y,
mother of 2 children
6
I've learned that I have to take better care of my partner so that you play each other better. Had I done so, I could very likely have avoided getting divorced.
Man 48 y,
Father of 3 children
I've learned that I have to take better care of my partner so that you play each other better. Had I done so, I could very likely have avoided getting divorced.
Man 48 y,
Father of 3 children
7
My ex is a narcissist and unfortunately I understood that very late in the process. I wish I'd known the signs of a narcissist's behavior so I could seek help before I'd run too far down mentally, I felt like I wasn't worth anything. For me, it was a huge sadness that our family had to dissolve, I took it as a defeat and blamed myself. Had I known the signs of a narcissist, I would have known it wasn't me who was wrong and I could have come out of the relationship earlier – especially for the benefit of my children.
Woman 49y,
Mother of 2 children
My ex is a narcissist and unfortunately I understood that very late in the process. I wish I'd known the signs of a narcissist's behavior so I could seek help before I'd run too far down mentally, I felt like I wasn't worth anything. For me, it was a huge sadness that our family had to dissolve, I took it as a defeat and blamed myself. Had I known the signs of a narcissist, I would have known it wasn't me who was wrong and I could have come out of the relationship earlier – especially for the benefit of my children.
Woman 49y,
Mother of 2 children
